WISE LOVE

A SIX-WEEK MARRIAGE PREPARATION EXPERIENCE FOR ENGAGED COUPLES TO STRENGTHEN Their RELATIONSHIP, PREPARE FOR Their NEXT CHAPTER TOGETHER and Build a solid foundation for a long-lasting marriage

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you just got engaged and you couldn't be happier.

The dream you've had in your heart and your mind for so long is finally happening for you and your beloved.

You immediately start looking up venues in your area, or maybe those destination wedding spots you've always dreamed of. You start making your wedding Pinterest board - filled with gorgeous flowers, stationary, and of course, wedding dresses and attire. You grab a wedding planning book or two, and start following dreamy engagement and wedding shoots on Instagram.

And then it starts. The questions (from loving relatives and friends of course). Where will the wedding be? Who is invited? What are you contemplating for the color scheme? Have you thought about including your Aunt Petunia in the ceremony as an officiant, or baby cousin Jimmy as the ring bearer?

Have you thought about the long-term legal, financial, and practical implications of marriage - like buying a house together, filing your taxes jointly or separately, condensing or keeping your savings accounts separate from one another, how you’re going to handle holidays and family events - and are you going to sort them out? Raise your hand if you're feeling the pressure to look into a prenup from parents or grandparents, but have no idea how to start that conversation!

These questions make you and your forever partner realize reality - that this is a moment of transition in your lives as a couple.

It's the first real moment when you're standing together for your decisions as a couple in the eyes of your family and your friends. And the decisions you make now - the way you navigate the marriage of not just your personal lives, but your families, friends, finances, long-term healthcare plans, etc. - will set the tone for your own marriage and your relationships with your loved ones moving forward.
And maybe, in the back of your mind, you're feeling like it would be smart to have the conversations around prenups, buying a house together, how you’re going to handle taxes, savings accounts and other assets, who is going to look after your mother and your mother-in-law when the time comes, how you’re going to handle in-law dynamics and family dynamics in your married life, what happens when it’s time to send your kids to school and to teach them about the world in the best way you can from a united front as parents, etc.

Because when you think about it, you realize it would bring you peace of mind that you've been able to talk honestly and sincerely with your forever person about the not-so-fun conversations leading up to your special day.




The best part? You get to do this in a way that brings you and your partner closer than ever before. A way that lets you look your future children in the eyes and say that you two planned ahead for some of the eventualities we often want to put to the back of our minds. Finding that way to approach these conversations is key, especially leading up to your special day.

But here's the thing. The cake, flowers, and wedding dress last for the wedding day...



but your marriage... you want that to last forever.

Introducing,

THE

WISE LOVE

EXPERIENCE.

THE

EXPERIENCE.

A completely unique, six-week, non-secular pre-marriage preparation container designed to support and strengthen couples' relational, vulnerability, and connection skills while navigating some of married life's biggest transitions and touch points.

This experience teaches you and your forever partner: 

KNOWLEDGE

CONNECTion

SOLUTION

A knowledge of shared legal, financial, and healthcare responsibilities of marriage, such as - what to do when your parents or your partner's parents need medical care or to move in with you; whether you'd like to to protect your partner from your own debts, or insulate your partner from liability if you have your own business and are ever sued; how you want to handle joint/separate bank accounts and plan for retirement; etc.); 

How to truly connect and communicate with one another by learning foundational relationship skills education and more advanced “shadow” or "parts" that facilitates self-knowledge on a deeper level and the ability to identify patterns in common conflicts in your existing relationship (so that you know how to avoid them in the future);
How to find agreed-upon solutions to shared marital challenges so that you can make your marriage work for you, with solutions to challenges like how to hold boundaries with your own family and in-laws; how to ensure your relationship remains a priority amongst the needs of family, friends, and work, and finding balance to it all; what you can do to support one another's individual desires to grow and pursue your dreams, to show up as a "good daughter or son,” to take time for yourself to recharge and reset - all while honoring your marriage; etc.

WHAT'S INCUDED

BECOME CLOSER THAN EVER WITH YOUR PARTNER

Through learning relationship skills and engaging in "parts" work to better understand and resolve relational conflict, you and your partner will feel closer to one another than ever before. These relationship skills include relationship strategies for navigating the difficult times; "parts" work that focuses on getting to know your different cast of internal characters that are uniquely yours and your partners', and how they interact particularly in relationship conflict - and how they can help you resolve conflict with more love, grace, and healing; and, if you and your partner so choose, self-discovery modalities such as astrology, human design, yoga philosophy, etc.

LEARN RELEVANT LEGAL, FINANCIAL, AND HEALTH-RELATED EDUCATION THAT ENCOMPASSES THE BIG, SHARED RESPONSIBILITIES OF MARRIAGE 

Learn the basics in legal education around long-term topics that arise in a marriage, including traditional prenup conversations, estate and financial planning, long-term care for aging parents, spouses, and children, financial health and wellbeing, etc.

CRAFT YOUR OWN, UNIQUE SOLUTIONS TO THE CHALLENGES LIKELY TO SHOW UP IN YOUR MARRIAGE AND MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK FOR YOU.

Using your new relationship skills, understanding of your "parts" and other self-discovery modalities, and understanding of legal, financial, and long-term healthcare education in hand, you and your partner will join hands in finding your own, unique solutions to 1-3 key marital challenges of your choosing. During this part of the experience, I combine my skills and expertise in relationship coaching, legal education, and mediation to guide you in discovering those solutions that are unique to your marriage - and that will make your marriage work for both of you. At the end of the experience, I will draft a pre-marriage agreement that outlines the topics we've discussed together and your agreed-upon solutions as to how you'd like to handle the big challenges that will come your way in your marriage. (PS - if you do decide to get a prenup, this experience will not only give you an educational foundation to make the decisions best for you both as a couple, but it will also save you valuable time and money you might otherwise spend learning this at an attorney's hourly rate!)

HOW IT WORKS

WEEK 1-2

WEEK 3

WEEK 4-6

In the first two weeks, we learn the relating skills to come even closer together in your marriage - from basic relating skills to encourage empathy, listening, and understanding, to getting to know different "parts" of yourself - how some of these parts might show up in conflict, and how to soothe those parts and/or bring in different parts to find connection and resolution in your relationship. 
RELATIONSHIP SKILLS:
In the third week, we learn the legal education to ensure that you and your partner know the practical side of marriage, mostly focusing on relevant legal, financial, and health-related topics.
LEGAL EDUCATION:
In the last three weeks, we have the big conversations you and your forever person want to have before their big day - from finances, to long-term healthcare for your aging family members, to kids, to in-laws and family dynamics, etc.! With your new relationship skills, legal education, and me as your guide to support you, you discuss and work through these big touchstone moments in your marriage in a way that brings even greater safety, security, and connection to your already loving relationship. At the end of it all, I draft up a document memorializing your discussions for you to refer to and revisit at any time throughout your marriage. 

PLANNING FOR YOUR MARRIAGE:
At the end of it all, you and your forever person will walk away with peace of mind that you have covered the biggest and most challenging conversations leading into a marriage, and the experience of transforming conflict into connection and building greater self-trust and trust in the relationship. Please note that I only work with a limited number of couples per cycle. If you're not able to join in one round, I'm happy to have you schedule for our next round!

EXPERIENCE & INVESTMENT

  • 6 weeks of building your own relationship roadmap to navigating some of marriage's biggest legal, financial, healthcare, and relational challenges.

  • 2 to 4 hours per week (16 hours total during the 6 weeks) of live, Zoom relationship coaching, legal education, and pre-marriage planning sessions.

  • A pre-marriage preparation agreement, drafted based on your specific requests and agreements regarding your married lives together.

  • A safe space to sit down and dive into the sometimes daunting conversations together - and give them the time and attention they deserve! 

EXPERIENCE:

  • Pay In Full: $4000. (Bonus: when you pay in full, you also receive 2 x 1 HR bonus sessions to revisit these discussions 6 months and 1 year following your marriage. Because the first year of marriage is when the most change can happen (and statistically, because divorce is most likely in the first two years of marriage), this is a great opportunity to build in support now for you and your new spouse!)

  • 3 Installments of $1500. (First payment upon booking. Second payment upon starting the experience. Last payment due before completion of the experience.) 

INVESTMENT:

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MEET DANA, YOUR MARRIAGE PREPARATION GUIDE!

As The Heart-Centered Lawyer™, a trained mediator, relationship and vulnerability coach, and certified yoga teacher, I offer a unique fusion of interdisciplinary skills to support you and your forever partner to navigate some of life's most challenging conversations with what I like to call Wise Love - the kind of love that knows the wisdom of revealing our truest, most authentic selves to allow for real connection in our own lives and in our relationships. 

The commitment you are making to one another through your marriage - to prioritize, honor, and cherish one another for life - is a beautiful thing, and one of life's greatest gifts to receive. 

And yet, this major life and identity transition (from together in a relationship to together in marriage, with all of the legal, financial, familial, and long-term healthcare implications!) can feel like diving into the unknown simply because it's new. You don't know what you don't know, after all. 

My goal is to provide increased certainty around this new, culturally/legally/financially-loaded life transition by helping you and your partner get to know the unknowns heading into marriage so that you can fully enjoy the fun parts of marriage without worrying about when the other shoe is going to drop. After the Wise Love experience, you and your partner will walk away with the confidence that you know the major issues that could arise AND that you'll be able to handle those challenges together - simply because you've already done so in your marriage preparation.  

With me as your guide, you have a person by your side with the mind of a lawyer, the presence and skills of a mediator and relationship coach, and the heart of a woman who fervently believes in the deepest and most long-lasting of loves. 

I look forward to getting to know you and your forever partner better. And I can't wait to support you in starting your next chapter in a way that deeply honors each of you and the marriage you're building together.  

ALL MY LOVE,

DANA X


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When you join the waitlist, you also receive access to my free Wise Love guide, where I break down in more detail what we'll be doing together in this marriage preparation container. 

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WISE LOVE FAQ'S

What's the investment?

WHY WOULD I COME TO YOU INSTEAD OF A PRENUP LAWYER?

Great question! A few thoughts here:

  • Let's face it - a lot of lawyers can be very non-feeling and logical. After all, it is their job to solve problems and give you the best legal, logical advice possible!
  • However, with big topics like these (think: how we're going to deal with your mother-in-law when it's time for her to live with us, how are we planning to afford a house, how we will navigate in-laws and family dynamics in our lives as a couple, etc.), we often have to acknowledge and make space for a deeply emotional side of this experience (that is, big feelings that can come up, as these topics are linked to some of our deepest hopes, dreams, and desires!).
  • This is where I come in. With the training of a lawyer and a mediator, and the experience of a relationship coach and skills educator, I am uniquely situated to hold space for these emotions, to teach you how to feel and navigate them effectively within yourselves and one another, and then provide the legal educational and problem-solving support to mentally tackle these big life challenges from a place of love and wisdom. (Sharon Rooney's character from Barbie has a line here that captures my vibe: "I have no difficulty holding logic and feeling at the same time. And it does not diminish my powers, it expands them.")
  • PS - by coming to me first, you're not only going to walk away with a better understanding of the points of legal education needed to best make these decisions - but you're also going to be in a position to save some serious money with prenup lawyers if you do decide to get a prenup (because you will walk in with a basic knowledge an attorney would have otherwise taught you at their hourly rate!). 

Do we walk away with a prenup or similar document at the end of the experience?

While I cannot draft you a prenup because I am not acting as one of your attorneys in this experience (as usually you need two attorneys for a prenup!), I do draft a pre-marriage agreement that both you and your beloved can take with you into your married life together. Feel free to come back to this often - it will be a good document to update as things change (and you both grow and change individually and as a couple) in your married life!

what is this "parts" work stuff? And how can it help me and my love in our marriage together?

So glad you asked!

"Parts" work is a type of "shadow" work, and a way to better understand how and why we find ourselves in conflict with some people, but maybe not so with others. This psychology-backed, research-based approach (that I learned from the PAIRS relationship trainings!) posits that we all have different "parts" within us - a cast of characters, if you will (or think Joy, Sadness, etc. à la Disney's Inside Out). 

Some of these characters show up when we're at work, with friends and family, and with our partner. We all have more protective and defensive parts, as well as more vulnerable, connective parts. The goal in getting to know our "parts" and our partner's "parts" is to better understand why we do the things we do when interacting with our partners - and to better understand why our partner does the things they do when interacting with us, too!

"Parts" work also allows each of us a bit of objectivity. By being able to "see" the patterns we play out in relationship by identifying which "parts" of us show up in conflict, we can then understand not just how and why it happens - but how to resolve it more easily and quickly next time.

It's a fun and friendly way to get to know some of the "darker" parts of us that make us beautifully human and who we are. Fans of the creative and scientific alike will love this approach to relating!

CAN YOU TELL ME MORE ABOUT THE 1:1 CALLS?

In our calls together, you and your partner will learn relevant relationship and relating skills and tools, legal education knowledge relevant to beginning your married lives together, and enjoy the safe, connective space to engage in these often uncomfortable conversations with the help of a guide (me!) who can support you in finding resolution and building connection emotionally and intellectually faster when conflict arises. 

The time in the calls forms the basis of the mediated agreement I draft for you both at the end of the experience.

At the end, you will walk away feeling more connected to one another than ever, now understanding your soon-to-be spouse on a much deeper level emotionally and having built the emotional safety and smart foundation for your marriage life moving forward.

Can you guarnatee Results?

I cannot guarantee the results of your experience with me or long-term in your marriage. What I can guarantee is bringing my best on any given day to the table. What you put into this experience is what you will get out of it. Coming to the table with an open mind, an open heart, and a willingness to be authentic and vulnerable with yourselves and one another - and engage from a place of curiosity, rather than judgment - will create the conditions for the most enjoyable and successful experience.  

How do we know if this experience is right for us?

If you're a loving, engaged couple who knows they want to have the smart conversations now to avoid the serious ones later - and you want to do so in a way that brings you closer together, rather than pushing you apart - this experience is for you. My joy is showing couples there are even deeper ways of connecting than you think (even when navigating the tough stuff in life). If you're still curious, let’s get to know each other better - feel free to schedule a free 30-minute consultation here

HOW DO WE KNOW IF THIS ISN'T RIGHT FOR US?

WHAT IS THE REFUND POLICY?

All payments are final and non-refundable. I do this because I want to encourage you to stay committed to one another and this process throughout its entirety - as there is so much you can get out of these conversations together with the commit to working through them.

ANY OTHER QUESTIONS?

Next Round begins september 2024

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