Love In Action
a relationship coaching Intensive for you (and your partner) to better communicate with your partner in the heated moments of your relationship
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Love your partner deeply, but find yourself fighting over the same things?
Thinking to yourself, "Are we really here again?"
That same issue you’ve been having for days, weeks, or even months with your partner just doesn’t seem to go away - and results in a fight or emotional distance between you anytime it comes up.
You've tried all of the approaches to address the issue.
Talking about it directly, using a gentle start-up to the conversation, checking in with your partner and asking when it is a good time to talk about the subject -
But you still find yourself still losing your sh*t when you finally talk about it - and you don't resolve anything.
Or maybe you're shying away from this conversation anytime your partner brings it up, burying your head in the sand and hoping your partner will drop it eventually (so you don’t have to say anything).
If you could just say the right thing, you know you'd be fine.
Here’s the thing - it can be difficult to choose and act in love when the hard times hit.
Not because we don't want to, but because we've never been taught how.
That same issue you’ve been having for days, weeks, or even months with your partner just doesn’t seem to go away - and results in a fight or emotional distance between you anytime it comes up.
You've tried all of the approaches to address the issue.
Talking about it directly, using a gentle start-up to the conversation, checking in with your partner and asking when it is a good time to talk about the subject -
But you still find yourself still losing your sh*t when you finally talk about it - and you don't resolve anything.
Or maybe you're shying away from this conversation anytime your partner brings it up, burying your head in the sand and hoping your partner will drop it eventually (so you don’t have to say anything).
If you could just say the right thing, you know you'd be fine.
Here’s the thing - it can be difficult to choose and act in love when the hard times hit.
Not because we don't want to, but because we've never been taught how.
The most challenging part of communicating in a relationship is how to respond with love when all you want to do is scream your head off at your partner.
The most challenging part of communicating in a relationship is how to respond with love when all you want to do is scream your head off at your partner.
Introducing,
Introducing,
Love In Action
THE
a 3 hour relationship coaching intensive for you (and your partner) to better communicate with your partner in the emotionally charged moments of your relationship.
What To Expect
1. Language
2. (Self)Inquiry
3. Action
First, you'll learn how to better connect and communicate with your partner when disagreements arise by using emotionally-intelligent communication strategies like:
The "When I, Be I" Formula; Mirroring; Active Listening; Using Feeling Words; Exploring Your Partner's Experience (Without Judgement); Sharing The Impact In Your Body; When And How To Check In With Your Partner; How To End A Conflict Conversation With Your Partner To Increase Connection; and more!
The "When I, Be I" Formula; Mirroring; Active Listening; Using Feeling Words; Exploring Your Partner's Experience (Without Judgement); Sharing The Impact In Your Body; When And How To Check In With Your Partner; How To End A Conflict Conversation With Your Partner To Increase Connection; and more!
Second, you'll learn parts work! If you're not familiar with parts work, what you should know here is that parts work allows each of us a bit of objectivity. By being able to "see" the patterns we play out in relationship by identifying which "parts" of us show up in conflict, we can then understand not just how and why it happens - but how to resolve it more easily and quickly next time.
It's the best self-inquiry tool I've found for getting really clear on what emotions are coming up for you, why they are coming up for you, and how to share and receive those emotions with your partner.
It's the best self-inquiry tool I've found for getting really clear on what emotions are coming up for you, why they are coming up for you, and how to share and receive those emotions with your partner.
Third, after you and your partner have identified and gotten to know your parts, it's time for the rubber to meet the road! We'll look at how your parts show up in conflict in your relationship at low and high levels - and we'll role play how these conversations can be resolved/what creative solutions might emerge using the framework and skills of parts work.
After our session together, it's up to you and your partner to practice these skills and this work together in your relationship. You have the tools and you have each other. So you've got this!
After our session together, it's up to you and your partner to practice these skills and this work together in your relationship. You have the tools and you have each other. So you've got this!
At the end of it all, you and your committed partner will walk away with a shared language for communicating in conflict, sharing and receiving your hearts with one another, and seeing your relationship dynamics from an objective place - which allows for creative solutions that you might never have seen before.
EXPERIENCE & INVESTMENT
- 3 hours of learning vulnerable and connective relationship and communication skills (most importantly, parts work!) that will allow you and your partner to connect from a heart-centered place in calm and conflict-ridden moments.
- One or two session(s) of live, online relationship coaching and education.
- A safe space to sit down and dive into the sometimes daunting conversations together - and give them the time and attention they deserve!
EXPERIENCE:
Investment:
- Pay In Full: $500.
Meet Dana, Your relationship mentor & Guide!
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Through a 5 year journey of loving my ex-fiancé, I gained the lived experience of what it's like to have some of the toughest, most emotionally-charged conversations and communications one could possibly have with a partner.
And while this relationship didn’t work out for me, I’ve integrated the wisdom of that lived experience - along with my professional skill sets as The Heart-Centered Lawyer™, a trained mediator, relationship and vulnerability coach, and certified yoga teacher - so that your relationship can work out for you.
The commitment you are making or have made to one another through your marriage or relationship - to prioritize, honor, and cherish one another - is a beautiful thing, and one of life's greatest gifts to receive.
And yet, we can all find ourselves struggling to say what we mean, or to hear our partners in the way they intend. This is where learning a deeper, shared style of heart-centered communication can make all the difference.
With me as your guide, you have a person by your side with the mind of a lawyer, the presence and skills of a mediator and relationship coach, and the heart of a woman who fervently believes in the deepest and most long-lasting of loves.
I look forward to getting to know you and your partner better. And I can't wait to support you in starting your next chapter in a way that deeply honors each of you and the future you're building together.
DANA
ALL MY LOVE,
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AWARDS & CREDIENTIALS
Love In Action FAQ'S
What's the difference between working with you and working with a licensed individual or couples therapist?
Excellent question.
First, let me clearly establish that I am not a licensed therapist, and I will never claim to be.
Therapists, in my understanding, focus on getting to the root causes of a mental health or psychological issue. In doing so, their goal is to understand, to deep dive, and to unravel - to understand why something is the way it is, or why you are the way you are. Sometimes therapists focus on solutions, but not always.
My approach is more holistic and interdisciplinary.
I do use my skills as relationship coach - specifically through the modality of parts work - to help you better understand yourself and what is emotionally "going on" for you inside of you during vulnerable conversations with your partner.
I also use my training and skills as a mediator and as lawyer to teach you communication skills and practices on how to have vulnerable, intimate conversations with a partner - in the sharing of your feelings, in the receiving of those vulnerable feelings, and in finding solutions that work for all parties involved.
This focus on understanding your emotions, communicating them effectively, and finding practical and implementable solutions that work for all parties is what distinguishes my unique approach from individual or couples therapy.
I'm very grateful for the contribution therapists make to the overall mental health of our society. Should you like to work with a therapist as a supplement to the experience, please know I support your choice, and I have a strong therapist network I am happy to share with you if needed. I may also suggest that you work with at therapist if, in my professional judgement, I believe that would be beneficial for you in our work together.
First, let me clearly establish that I am not a licensed therapist, and I will never claim to be.
Therapists, in my understanding, focus on getting to the root causes of a mental health or psychological issue. In doing so, their goal is to understand, to deep dive, and to unravel - to understand why something is the way it is, or why you are the way you are. Sometimes therapists focus on solutions, but not always.
My approach is more holistic and interdisciplinary.
I do use my skills as relationship coach - specifically through the modality of parts work - to help you better understand yourself and what is emotionally "going on" for you inside of you during vulnerable conversations with your partner.
I also use my training and skills as a mediator and as lawyer to teach you communication skills and practices on how to have vulnerable, intimate conversations with a partner - in the sharing of your feelings, in the receiving of those vulnerable feelings, and in finding solutions that work for all parties involved.
This focus on understanding your emotions, communicating them effectively, and finding practical and implementable solutions that work for all parties is what distinguishes my unique approach from individual or couples therapy.
I'm very grateful for the contribution therapists make to the overall mental health of our society. Should you like to work with a therapist as a supplement to the experience, please know I support your choice, and I have a strong therapist network I am happy to share with you if needed. I may also suggest that you work with at therapist if, in my professional judgement, I believe that would be beneficial for you in our work together.
So glad you asked!
"Parts" work is a type of "shadow" work, and a way to better understand how and why we find ourselves in conflict with some people, but maybe not so with others. This psychology-backed, research-based approach (that I learned from the PAIRS relationship trainings!) posits that we all have different "parts" within us - a cast of characters, if you will (or think Joy, Sadness, etc. à la Disney's Inside Out).
Some of these characters show up when we're at work, with friends and family, and with our partner. We all have more protective and defensive parts, as well as more vulnerable, connective parts. The goal in getting to know our "parts" and our partner's "parts" is to better understand why we do the things we do when interacting with our partners - and to better understand why our partner does the things they do when interacting with us, too!
"Parts" work also allows each of us a bit of objectivity. By being able to "see" the patterns we play out in relationship by identifying which "parts" of us show up in conflict, we can then understand not just how and why it happens - but how to resolve it more easily and quickly next time.
It's a fun and friendly way to get to know some of the "darker" parts of us that make us beautifully human and who we are. Fans of the creative and scientific alike will love this approach to relating!
In our session(s) together, you and your partner will learn relevant relationship and relating skills and tools, including parts work, and enjoy the safe, connective space to engage in these often uncomfortable conversations with the help of a guide (me!) who can support you in finding resolution and building connection emotionally and intellectually faster when conflict arises.
At the end, you will walk away feeling more connected to one another than ever, now understanding your partner on a much deeper level emotionally and having built the emotional safety and smart foundation for your relationship and life moving forward.
At the end, you will walk away feeling more connected to one another than ever, now understanding your partner on a much deeper level emotionally and having built the emotional safety and smart foundation for your relationship and life moving forward.
